Mixed-Matched Shoes

Our shoes and our companions should match

I was cleaning out my son’s closet the other day when I did something strange. I wore a pair of flip flops into my son’s room. I pulled my shoes off, climbed in a chair and begin to clean the top of his closet. As I was taking down items, I climbed down from the chair. I grabbed an arm full of all the things I wanted to throw away and headed to the trash can in the kitchen. Before I left the room, I put my shoes back on. When I was on my way back to the room, I just happened to look down at my feet. I was shocked at what I discovered.

I wasn’t wearing my flip flops. I had on two mixed matched pair of shoes. I had on one flip flop and one slide in mesh tennis shoe. How I ended up with the two different shoes on I can’t say. I was just shocked that I had done something so silly. I was also shocked that when I walking to the kitchen I hadn’t noticed the difference in the way the shoes felt. It was only when I returned to my son’s room that I noticed something wrong. Then it came to me. My shoes had been unequally yoked. Although I am not married, I recognized how it could make a world of difference.

So often in our quest to find a spouse, a companion, or a business partner, we hook up with people who just don’t go with us. They don’t share our dreams or our values. And, like my mixed matched shoes, they feel okay at first. However, we eventually start to feel some discomfort. It is then that we become miserable. We look to God to help us understand how we ended up with this person who is so wrong for us.

The answer to the question is simple. We ignored the differences. We ignored the signs because we want this person so bad. We were so caught up in our romantic feelings. Let’s be honest. We were so caught up in the sex -if it is a spouse or companion-that we couldn’t think straight. Great sex does not mean he or she will make a good spouse, a good provider, or even a good friend. This is why there are so many divorces and bitter break-ups.

So, what do you do once you notice that you are wearing mixed-matched shoes? You should ask God to help you. If you are married to them, ask God to begin to save that person and to help you. If this is a business partner, ask God to help you and your business. If this is a boyfriend or girlfriend, make a change before things go any further. I know it is harder than it sounds. Once you have become sexually connected with a person, it is hard to break that bond.

How do you stop from putting on mixed-matched shoes? How do you keep from hooking up with the wrong business partner or companion? You pray and ask God for guidance. Remember when Abraham sent his servant to bring back a wife for Isaac in Genesis 24: 12-19. He prayed that God would give him a sign and show him the right woman. We are to seek God about everything-especially something as important as choosing a spouse.

Genesis 24: 1-26

2 Corinthians 6: 14