Flowers on the Floor: Learning to Let Go of Painful Relationships

 

It is amazing how many women are hurting because of the things that a man has done. And, don’t get me wrong. I have not been an exception. We have all been in love with someone who just didn’t seem to appreciate us or recognize our value.

Summer comes with a wide variety of beautiful flowers. There are daisies, black-eyed susans, magnolia blooms, lilies, violets, and baby’s breath just to name a few. These flowers are beautiful, but they become ugly and stink once they have been crushed. When I think of the way we are once someone has hurt us, I think of flowers on the floor. I think of beautiful flowers that have been crushed underneath some uncaring person’s foot. This person did not stop to see the beauty of the flower. He only hurried about his business. And, so many times, he never looks back to see what he has done or who he has hurt. We have cast pearls before swine.

We must learn how to identify swine. We must learn how to get out of the hog pen and move forward. Yes, he may have talked good in the beginning. Maybe he was great in the beginning, but that time has passed. You have lost your value to him. And, no amount of crying or begging will get him to change his mind. So, stop throwing your pearls to him. Stop offering up yourself on his bed on sacrifice thinking that if I just give him more love, more sex, or more money he will love me again. He won’t. He will enjoy the sex. He will use your money. But, he will never see the pearls. He will never realize how much you are giving up just for him.

Yes, one day he may come to himself. But, dear sister, that day is not today. He is no longer your Romeo. He is not your Superman. He is now your abuser. He is verbally abusive. He is emotionally unavailable. He forgets your birthday, anniversary, or other important dates. He would rather hang out with his friends or the new chick he just met. You know the one who is turning him on for the moment. Believe me. It is just for the moment. So, what do you do?

Stop answering his calls or texts. Stop giving him sex whenever he wants it. Move out of his house or put him out of yours. Pick up your pearls~your beautiful flowers~move forward. Give the pain and hurt to God. He can heal you. A real man loves God and is obedient to his word. And, if he loves God, he will treat you like the princess (remember you are a king’s kid) that you are.

Matthew 7: 6